Tonight, one of Josh’s buddies died of a heart attack. At 30 years old. Seemingly healthy. Leaving a wife and two small children behind. A longtime friend from Brownsboro High School. Josh and Brandon saw each other fairly often since Josh runs calls and transfers to and from Mother Frances and Brandon worked in the same hospital’s ICU unit. Gone at THIRTY.
My new husband just turned 31 on the 6th of November. I can’t imagine the feeling of losing him right now and being left with two children to raise alone. At the same exact time, I can’t imagine losing my husband unexpectedly and realizing that there would be no children to carry on his name. Which scenario would you prefer?–a lonely life without your soulmate or a life shared with little ones who have your soulmate’s eyes, nose, chin or ears? I can’t imagine not being married to him and something happening to him–now that we’re married, if something were to happen to either of us, we have the ability to say “at least we were married for a while,” “at least we got to share some of our lives together as man and wife.
I’m not encouraging anyone to get married as soon as possible or to try to have kids unless you have made those decisions on your own terms, but it just made me think of all the people who have given their advice on when to get married or have children. Some say now is the perfect time, others much later; but the truth is that there will never be a perfect time.
I was just reminded of this tonight by the death of Josh’s friend. Life is so short. ANYONE can go at ANY time. Carpe diem! Don’t wait to go after that long-time goal! Do it now while you still have the chance! Tell those who truly matter to you how you really feel. MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT!
I am SO glad I decided to make this part of my life count. I kept waiting for the “right time” to get married, and after I finally stopped overanalyzing the situation, I realized again that there will never be a “right” or “wrong” time for anything. Life isn’t easy and it especially doesn’t slow down or stop for anyone. You only get one life and it’s not guaranteed to be any certain length of time, so you HAVE to make it count to the fullest. I decided to stop waiting for the “right” time and got married! Looking back, it became the “right” time for us. Having kids won’t be any different. We will try to avoid major obstacles like still being in school, etc. But when it comes to starting a family I don’t think I’ll be as nervous about whether it’s the “right” or “wrong” time.
Going back to school to get a degree in something of interest to me has been one of these goals I have had for a while. I didn’t think it was the “right time” for me to start from square one in earning my Bachelors degree. I had always considered photography a serious hobby and not a steady source of income. It wasn’t the “right” time yet. “What if this? What if that?” After my husband encouraged me to do what I love, I wouldn’t go back for anything. I am paying my bills with MY photography and my technical skills. I am getting the opportunity to do what I love!
I have met such wonderful people since coming to the Journalism department and I have learned so many new skills. I am SO proud of the progress the people in this class have made and, as I look back, I honestly can’t believe we’re here! We have come SO far and we are running these shows like we’re naturals. 😉
Thank you to all my instructors and all my friends made during my first semester here in the Journalism department. We couldn’t have made all this progress without one another.
I am really looking forward to next semester…but I NEED a break!
“The Lord upholds all who fall and raises up all who are bowed down. The Lord is righteous in all His ways, gracious in all His works. The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth. He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He also will hear their cry and save them. The Lord preserves all who love Him, but all the wicked He will destroy.”
Psalm 145:14, 17-20